Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Change


Recently, I made a huge change in my life. A change that has already had a big impact on me and my family. But before I get to the “change,” let me reminisce.

After high school, I knew I needed to go to college. I knew this because my parents and my brothers told me so. I had no idea what I wanted to do, but at least I was going to college. The first couple of years I switched majors at least three times. But it was okay, I was in college. I also did not want to burden my parents, so I had to take out some student loans to pay tuition.

Finally, when my general education classes were complete, I had to pick a major and try to stick with it. My brother at the time was a professor in philosophy. So, you guessed it, I declared philosophy as my major. I had no idea what I was going to do with a philosophy major, but it made my brother proud that I was studying what he loved. To tell you the truth, I kind of enjoyed the subject, but I never felt like I belonged with the “philosophers” in the department.

Senior year, I had to figure out what I was going to do for a career. At this time, I was married and had one child. It may be hard to believe, but there are not too many jobs for philosophy majors. Well, my brother who was the philosophy professor actually went to law school for a semester before switching to philosophy. He encouraged me to go to law school. Being a lawyer would be a good way to support my family and I could help people. So, I applied law school and was accepted.

I moved my family out-of-state and started law school. I found law school difficult. Lots of studying and pressure. But I made a lot of wonderful friends. When I was about to graduate, I sent out dozens of resumes. I had no idea of what being a lawyer would be like.

Fortunately, I found a job at a law firm in the big city of Salt Lake. Working as a lawyer was nothing like what I thought it would be. Plus, I swear my boss was bi-polar. He taught me some very colorful language. I ended up moving to another firm, and then another. All the while, trying to like the practice of law. While there were some areas I enjoyed, such as estate planning and adoptions, for the most part I found the practice boring, petty and frustrating.

In law school, I became good friends with the assistant strength coach at the university. He began teaching me about strength and nutrition. About how to get strong and fast. He began training me. I loved what I was learning. I began training. It continued until my first job, when because of the long hours and stress, I stopped, and lost around twenty pounds. I eventually started training again, and helping people in the gym where I worked out. I started reading every article and book I could find on training. My passion became fitness. I loved not only the changes I saw in myself, but also helping others better themselves through exercise and nutrition.

About a year and a half ago, I started seriously looking for a job, a job outside the law. But my endeavor was seriously frustrated by the bad economy. I spent a lot of time hoping, praying, and searching for something that I would enjoy. Law never fit my personality. I am a happy, relaxed person who loves to be with positive people. I hate contention and needless bickering. I felt my job was sucking the life out of me. Those of you who have had jobs that do not fit their personalities know what I’m talking about.

Nothing happened. Lots of resumes, no new job. At this same time, I had converted my garage into a gym. I began training people in my “garage gym” and started holding strength and fitness camps. I loved it. Again, fitness was my passion. I finally approached my wife with an idea. I wanted to quit my steady good paying job to pursue my passion. I am not going to lie and say my wife was okay with the idea. She was not. I remember her crying. During one of our conversations, she said she felt like throwing up. I completely understood her hesitation. We have four kids and bills to pay. Still, I was tired of waiting for life to happen. I was going to make it happen.


My Gym!

After a while, and after presenting my “plan” to my wife, she agreed. When I told my boss, who by the way I consider a good friend, I knew I had made the right decision. This time, instead of making my decision based on what others think is best for me, I made a decision I knew was best for me.

I need to note that I would never do anything that would hurt my family. The day after I quit, I took my beautiful three year old daughter for a bike ride to the park. As I watched her playing, it reaffirmed my complete devotion to her and my family. I knew I would succeed not only for myself, but for her and my family. I would never let them go without.


Now, what is my plan? Do I still practice law? Yes, but only part-time. Plus, I am limiting my practice to what I enjoy, estate planning and corporate law. My other time is spent running and growing my training business, NTS Fitness. While it has only been a short time since I made the change, things are going well and I have not regretted my decision. I also have the full support of my wife.

My New Office!

Was quitting my job crazy? Yes. Is it risky? Yes. Would most people do it? No. But was it the right thing for me and my family? Yes. Will I succeed? You bet I will.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Why I Train

Iron is in my blood. It's become part of me. I cannot imagine a day when I will not lift weights and train. I look forward to hitting the gym. Setting PRs drives me. There are several reasons why training has become part of my life. I want to share of few of those reasons.

My Family

I train for my family. As a husband and father, I am a protector. I will do anything in my power to prevent anyone from harming my wife or kids. Strength and size helps me to fulfill my role. My wife and kids know that I am strong. They feel safe when they are with me.

The other night I was reading a nighttime story to my two year old daughter. My daughter is my girl. She's my princess. When I started reading her the story, she wrapped her cute little arms around my arm and laid her head on my shoulder. My heart melted. As silly as it may sound, it meant something to me that I have a strong arm my girl (or any of my kids for that matter) can grab a hold of. With my strong arms I can shelter, protect, and support my wife and kids.

Also, my wife and kids have come to love fitness. Just last night, while I was training some guys, my five year old son came out to the gym and started "working out". My kids love to hang out with me when I train. They follow my example. Instead of sitting around playing X-Box, they are doing push-ups.

Service
I train to give service. I truly believe that one of the greatest things we can do is to give service. There have been several times when people have called me over to lift the "heavy" object, such as a tree stump, rock, flag pool, etc. Because of my level of fitness, I can do more work and work for longer periods of time. In short, I can help more people.

Myself
I train for myself. Let's be honest, who doesn't like to look good. Who doesn't like to feel strong. Training is good for my self-esteem. Growing up I really did not have a good self-esteem. I lacked confidence. In High School, I weighed 160 lbs (I'm 6'3") and had a mullet (yes, a mullet). Besides cutting my mullet off (thanks honey) lifting weights has been great for my confidence. In many ways, it has given me what I lacked growing up. I like how I look in the mirror. And I like that I still catch my wife's eye.

Training also relieves my stress. I have a stressful day job. I'm a lawyer. A lawyer's life is filled with contention and deadlines. This stress can get to you. Add on top of that the stress that comes from being a husband and father. Training is a way that I can relieve life's stresses. I feel great after a training session. I feel like I can conquer the world.

I hope I don't sound conceited or superficial. Instead, I hope you can relate to some of the things I've said. Training is part of me. It's become part of my family. I'm sure, many of you feel the same way.

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Wednesday's Workout

I am married and have four kids. Because I am a family man first, sometimes my workouts have to be shortened and at different times in the day. For example, last night I worked out at 9:30, after the kids went to bed. Also, because I had not seen my wife much yesterday, I needed to hurry. Right now I am doing four-day splits. Yesterday was my upper-body day. I did the following:

1A. Push-ups w/ blast straps 4 x failure
1B. Reverse bench 4 x 10
1C. Shouldering (with 80 lb sandbag) 4 x 10

2. Handwalks w/ power wheel 3 laps around gym

The entire workout lasted twenty minutes. While I didn't do much in quantity, the quality and intensity of the workout were high. I spent little or no time between sets.

All of us are busy. However, we can all find time to workout. Even if it is only for 5, 10, 15 minutes.

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Why I workout

Why would I choose to get up at 6:00 a.m. every morning to lift weights? Why do I constantly push myself to the point of failure? Why do I try to live a healthy life? Personally, I do these things because of the following:

1. My family. I want to be able to wrestle with my sons, protect my wife and children, intimidate those boys who have eyes for my daughter, and live a long life. I do not want to be restricted physically in anyway in doing things with my family.

2. My self. I personally like the feeling I get when I exercise. Nothing quite compares to the rush you get when you lift heavy weights. Additionally, lifting weights is a great stress reliever. I also firmly believe that lifting weights and exercising teaches a person self-discipline and the rewards that come with sacrifice. Finally, and to be honest, I like being strong.

3. Others. I lift weights to be an example to others and to teach others the benefits of exercise. I have noticed that my boys now have a keen interest in exercising and staying healthy. This interest they now have will likely stay with them for the rest of their lives. Finally, I have also seen those I train reach their goals. I have found great joy watching athletes and weekend warriors find success and achieve goals they never thought were possible.

Exercising is not easy. That's why most people who begin lifting weights and exercising quit. However, for those of us who have stayed "with it", and have developed a love for strength and health, we will find that our work and sacrifice will pay dividends not only for ourselves, but for those around us.